banuparlar

Finding Meaning Through Loss

Life has a remarkable way of reminding us that we are not in control.

Not long ago, I sat down to write, with a clear plan for the evening. Then a message arrived: a dear friend’s father had passed away unexpectedly. Within the hour, I found myself at the hospital, standing alongside people I care about. In moments like these, there are rarely words that can ease the pain. Yet simply being present—sharing silence, grief, and humanity—often matters more than anything we could say.

BUT HR WANTS IT THAT WAY!

How much easier this sentence makes the manager’s job at some moments. Or so it seems at that moment. I have had the opportunity to work in the HR realm for many years to know that human resources desks witness requests and even complaints much more than appreciation and thanks. It was a sentence I heard indirectly or directly many times; “But HR wants it that way!”. We can guess what happens before “but” in the sentence; “It feels wrong to me too, but…

WHAT HAVE YOU GIVEN TO THIS LIFE?

I have never considered myself deeply immersed in the world of art.

My relationship with it is simpler than that.

I visit museums and exhibitions. I stand in front of paintings and wonder about the people who created them. I think about the eras they lived in, the stories behind their work, and the emotions their creations awaken in me.

EMOTIONS, NEITHER GOOD OR BAD

The Work of Understanding Our Emotions

We spend years learning how to think, analyze, perform, and succeed.

Yet when it comes to understanding our emotions, many of us seem to be perpetually making up for a class we somehow missed.

EMBRACING CHANGE

Stepping out of our comfort zone, taking a different step, and trying something new often triggers a range of emotions, fluctuating between excitement and calm, or apprehension and fear. In life, there are certainly moments when we quickly adapt to change, perhaps with a stronger determination. However, it’s worth pausing to contemplate how easily and willingly we invite the concept of change into our lives.

Who Are You Being?

I have long seen life as a journey of experience and growth.

Some of us move through it without much reflection.

Some of us question, observe, and try to make sense of what happens.

And some of us are aware that something feels misaligned—but postpone the inner work because avoidance feels easier in the moment.

Scroll to Top